There’s a certain type of Thought Catalog
piece that gets teen and twenty-something girls all trigger-happy with
that there “share” button. They are published many times a week, by
many different—always female—authors, but they all center around one
pivotal message: “You Deserve X.” The latest iteration was written by
a woman with a man’s name, so when I saw the title “What The Person You Deserve Is Like,” I thought
I was in for a satirical, funny, and sarcastic piece that made fun of
this phenomenon. Alas, the you deserve X and Y and Z and this, that,
and the other kept on coming, and as I got to the bottom my last hopes
of reaching the punch line of the joke were obliterated as a young
woman’s face was staring back at me.
I stopped to examine my own prejudice. I
mean, as soon as I saw the male name next to an article about
deserving stuff, I had assumed it to be funny and a parody. Asking
myself why this was, I very soon reached a conclusion: Men never utter
the sentiment, “I deserve X.” I have never heard a man say those words
and mean them. A man saying it is about as unlikely as hearing a man
say, “I’m so emotional right now” or even “I’m on my period.” The
sentence, “I deserve someone who gives me chocolates, thinks I’m
perfect, and makes me happy” (a boiled-down version of Kyle’s article)
sounds like it was made for a shrill woman’s voice; when spoken in
baritone it sounds truly bizarre.
A lot of advertising that targets women
centers around this idea. Can you even imagine a “because you’re worth
it” slogan for Gillette razors? So what is it about women and
entitlement? Why is the feeling that one “deserves” things so
inherently female?
First of all, I am not sure young women
understand the concept of “deserving” something. To be deserving, in
the male mind, is the outcome of having achieved something great or
performed something well. When men do a good thing, accomplish a feat,
or win at something, we see ourselves as being deserving of a prize or
praise as a result of what we’ve done. When we work for an employer we
see ourselves worthy of a salary. When we help someone out, we feel we
deserve a “Thank you.” When we risk our life and limb to serve our
country and do something valiant that’s above and beyond the call of
duty, we feel we deserve a medal of honor. Indeed, for men, to deserve
something is the result of having done something worthy.
For women it seems the concept is a little
different. It appears women believe that they deserve things merely by
virtue of existing. This is something that can be observed everywhere.
Women often tell each other, you deserve better, you deserve
a great guy, you deserve to be happy. For me—and, I believe,
most other red-blooded males—this is an alien concept. Never have I
had a male friend tell me, “You deserve better than her, you deserve a
girl who treats you like a king, you deserve to be happy. The male
mind doesn’t think, “I deserve to be happy, it’s my birthright”; it
thinks, “What can I achieve so that happiness becomes more attainable
for me?”
In the rare event that a man tells a
friend, “You deserve a good girlfriend, good marriage, or a happy
life” it never comes without a clearly articulated reason: You’re a
good man, you’re working a lot to support your family, you’ve made a
lot of sacrifices for your family, you’ve built a company from the
ground, etc.” For women, that reason never comes. The difference seems
to lie in the fact that men put something in and as a result they feel
that they deserve what comes out of it; it’s a balanced equation.
Women, on the other hand, don’t put anything in, yet they feel
extremely deserving. For women, simply existing makes them
feel worthy of being treated a certain way and being doted upon like
royalty.
The thing is, though, that the male
concept of deserving is congruent with the dictionary definition; it is,
logically, the correct way of looking at it, whereas female deserving
seems to factor out their own responsibility and accountability, thus
turning it into a completely different concept. If everyone were
worthy of things based on simply existing, the concept of being
worthy is meaningless.
Female entitlement is most blatant in
dating/relationships. Women not only expect, but feel they deserve,
to be swept off their feet and have a man feed them with constant
gratification, something that is very obvious in the article I
mentioned before, the author gives absolutely no qualifiers as to why
she, or any girl deserves any of this.
You deserve chocolate when you are
cranky, a partner to indulge in your guilty television pleasures,
and someone who tries to kiss you even though they just watched you
puke up breakfast, lunch, and dinner. This is the person who laughs
when you correct their grammar instead of getting mad, the one who
knows they had better text you back, and the person who understands
that you will not always have your “A game” out on display.
Imagine a man writing the above. It just
doesn’t happen.
This is also evident in the fact that
women are more likely to be on the political left. They’re big on
receiving handouts and welfare. They don’t seem to have any qualms
about taking other people’s money (child support), either.
But I don’t blame solely you gals for your
gimme gimme gimme attitude and princess complexes; there’s a
far more insidious perpetrator lurking everywhere. I’m talking, of
course, about the White Knight. In this social-media era, these fellas
are ruining it for every other man by gratifying women and inflating
their already huge egos. A White Knight is the kind of guy that
comments, “Wow girl, you’re so pretty, you’re a princess xoxoxo” on a
girl’s most recent album of bikini pics on Facebook. He’s the kind of
guy that showers girls with gifts, compliments, and attention whenever
he can. He’s the kind of guy that will leave a comment below this
piece about me being a misogynist, his fedora a modern equivalent of
shining armor. White Knights are ruining things for themselves, too.
As women’s egos inflate, their standards shoot up into space, leaving
the White Knights worshiping them like celestial bodies but getting
them nowhere closer to dat sweet gushy wet-wet they’re all secretly
hankering after.
So what can be done about this? How can we
get women down to Earth again? If we ever want to see female
entitlement disappear, we need to stop giving women all that literally
undeserved validation, gratification, and praise. It’s not hard; just
don’t treat women differently because they have a pussy, and maybe
turn the tables on them. Make them work a bit harder for the D.
To conclude, I am speaking directly to
you, “Kyle,” if that is even your real name: What have you done to
deserve “back rubs for no reason” and all those other little tidbits
of entitlement?
This article exemplifies a key issue with feminism. It
devalues the me experience and the male view point.
Through if Foucluian view of power it attempts to create a
world were the male perspective is wrong or evil. It’s
view on patriarchy necessitates a dismissal of the male
experience. To validate it means to invalidate it’s view
on power. For feminism to work class matters, not action.
This is where we see the conflict and failure of the
feminist framework because that isn’t true nor is it how
the world actually works.
Although this moment of accurate clarity seems to
be fueled by the irritation of wasted time in a now
ended relationship, there is something I must add.
What you are questioning is the concept of supply
and demand as it pertains to pussy. Young women’s
pussys and tits are actually in very high demand
mostly because men are trying to fuck them for
absolutely no reason and thus have value for nothing
at all. As long as this value remains, women will
continue to market themselves upward to achieve a
higher price. It is this marketing skill and
freshness of product that is the female achievement.
So Kyle has some man out there who massages her
shoulders and in turn she absolutely fucks his
brains out while you spend your time jerking off.
....supply and demand....
Dude, these womem are seriously messed up and
delusional. You just got to be a real man, be a boss
and be a savage. Don't take these dumb stank women
seriously man. Women in the modern era are useless
and cancerous to our society. All they got is that
stank wet wet that we want to beat up and creampie
deep inside of. If there was no law and order, bro
these women will get smacked left and right and
raped 24/7.
Child support is "other people's money"? Lol. I'm
so lucky that my ex wants to actually contribute and
participate in his child's life instead of bitching
about buying diapers. It's a sad world where a woman
has to take a man to court and force him to care for
his biological offspring. I'm not entitled at all. I
make my own way, am gainfully employed, take care of
my children with NO financial assistance besides my
ex being a good father and also buying clothes,
etc... I've never relied on anyone to provide my
happiness, or chocolates. I can do that on my own.
But tell me... What are you worth as a male if you
have to be forced to perform YOUR main function...
Taking care of your offspring and providing for a
family? How many of you have actually had a
significant accomplishment and deserve a "prize"?
I'm sorry, but I see things the exact same way from
the other side. Many men are entitled assholes who
feel their presence is contribution enough, and that
they should sit on their ass and be waited on hand
and foot while someone else raises the kids AND pays
the bills. Most of you can't hang a fucking picture
on the wall or change the oil in the car. It's so
incredibly pathetic.
I think child support is problematic because A) it
can be used as a slush fund, ie you can use it for
whatever you please, regardless of the expenses of
raising a child B) it's an arbitrary amount C) there
is no mercy for men suffering from job loss, reduced
hours, their own personal financial crisis, or just
their business performing poorly D) they get hauled
off to jail if they don't pay, which is extremely
counter productive to their ability to pay.
Also, my main function in life is whatever I
choose, not caring for a brat you could have chosen
to abort thus sparing yourself the vast time and
money involved in the next 18+ years, and who I have
no idea is actually mine or if you poked holes in
the condom to get pregnant without my permission in
order to get child support.
My ex-wife participated just as much as I did in
bringing our kids into the world. And yet she
thought it was within her rights to just up and
leave, totally turning her back on her own flesh and
blood. Then she was surprised when the kids wanted
to live with me, and the judge granted me custody.
Then she was appalled that the court would *GASP*
require her to make child support payments to me.
You see, in her entitled female brain (if you can
call it that) child support is something a MAN
always pays to a WOMAN. She actually thought I would
have to pay her money, even though the kids are with
me 100% of the time!
No bitch, child support is what PARENTS pay to
equalize the support burden that both parents owe to
the children they brought into the world. Since I am
caring for them 100% of the time, because you are
too selfish to, YOU will be paying ME. But you know
what? I don't want your money. In fact, if it means
I never have to see your face again, I'll glad forgo
any money you've been ordered to pay.
And I am ENJOYING every minute I have with my
precious kids, which is even better now that the
lying, deceitful, cheating, foul-mouthed, pathetic,
whore-like excuse for a mother they had is out of
our lives forever. Her loss, and she is really
feeling it. And I couldn't care less. I will never
allow her to hurt my kids or infect our lives with
her presence again.
And the more I open my eyes, the more I see that
many, many women are exactly like her. Good
riddance, and I hope you enjoy dying alone.
Based on the complaints of women being "left" and
the complaints about welfare I disagree with the
author a lot but I don't disagree when it comes to
child support.
You are being entitled. You can choose to have a
kid or not have a kid, or to have the kid but not
raise it. If you have that choice, then men get the
same choice.
And as for this bullshit:
"What are you worth as a male if you have to be
forced to perform YOUR main function... Taking care
of your offspring and providing for a family?"
If you're that much of a misandrist, you can go
back to being the walking uterus who exists for
nothing but to pump out babies.
Yes it is other people money. And if you cannot
afford to raise the child leave it to the one that
can. The worth of a male to you is to pay for other
people. That is bs from someone with little to no
worth.Besides the fact most men can do that can you
do that? because otherwise you have no right to
complain.
There are bad people, sure. But men are not
rampantly raping women, beating them, or hurting
them. Women are just using men for cash these days
and everyone - including society backs that up. Do a
Google search on men are entitled. Good. Now, do the
same for women. Why does it have the same results
even when you use quotes.
Women are malignant narcissists and they call it
strong. They call criminals alpha. Okay, well when
all the criminals get shot in the face along with
their families what will you do then?
Get ready, cause it is about to start. You want
toxic masculinity? Ok, you asked for it, you shall
receive.
How can any sane man compete with a woman's father.
Yes you know, the kind of father who buys his
daughters happiness. And women being highly
material, in general not only want this--they expect
it. Women are highly entitled because of societies,
social engineering. If you go on line, you will find
literally 100 articles on how husbands can do better
to please their wives. How husbands should treat
their spouses. You will not find more than two or
three, the other way. It is on TV. Sitcoms. Even
commercials. The man is always a bumbling fool who
is lucky as shit he met his wife. He isn't a
complete man without a wife. Before you critique me,
I am married for 25 years. I am not a bitter
person--just a realist. And a truth teller. If there
was a TV show and a man came out and said woman are
better than men, there would be wild applause. If a
man said the same thing, it would not go over so
well. Have we become so manipulated that we have to
make up stories that every single woman is superior
to a man? Despite seeing all of the inventions that
man has made? You do not deserve anything because of
your gender and your pussy. Get over yourselves,
ladies. You're not so great.
What an amazing argument, I like how you picked
his post apart piece by piece and totally
destroyed him. You didn't even have resort to
personal attacks like a child would!
It's the natural cycle. Women were oppressed;
believed to be less than. Oppressors are meant to be
overcome. They overcame. And as a result the women
are stronger now. Now they have to learn what too
much force means. It'll balance out again, then go
toward men being on top again and so on and so on.
Wish we had genetic memory yet? Maybe remember each
generation's mistakes so they don't get repeated. I
guess the only way to do that is through education.
Ms. Hughes - I am not certain that you know either
Mr. or Mrs. Crown, but I do think that you DO
understand that there is a war on boys and men going
on,and that you are seeing the predictable results
in some of these posts. If you happen to have a son,
he is going to have a very rough ride, and if you
have a daughter, she is going to have a very
difficult time finding a "qualified" man to marry.
I know enough about him from other responses
he’s made through other social media responses.
He’s highly argumentative and inappropriate in
his responses. Can’t a point be made about women
without the use of words like, “pussy?”
You clearly do not know me or any children I
may or may not have, so please refrain from
preaching about what roads their lives may or
may not take.
Also, “Leonard,”. You’re not fooling anyone. I
know who posted this comment.
OMG! Yes!!! Thank you. Women talk about their
vag all the damn time and call me dicks, but
refer to them as anything but "your majesty" and
they lose their shit. The double standard is
always strong with these entitled slags.
Why don't you make a point. He is disgusting, why?
Because he thinks women are spoiled pigs? Just a
cursory glance confirms it. Millions.of pages of
history, literature, etc., telling.of the nature of
treatment of a group known as the pampered, fairer
sex.
Are you too lazy and spoiled to counter, question,
debate, agree with but criticize his attitude, etc.,
him?
His attitude comes from.being enraged over white
women living lavash lives where men pay for their
entire existence while simultaneously insisting they
are oppressed. They even a word for sheltering women
so they can be princesses, benevolent sexism. He
feels sickened by the whole business.
You, and other women full of entitled sexist hate
are the problem, there is no compromise or
cooperation possible with people who think men are
subhuman, you can only be fought and defeated.
I think “token shit stirrer” is probably more
accurate. Being KKK or a Nazi would probably
take more conviction and dedication than he has.
Plus those labels assume he’s white. Assholes
come in all races and genders. Don’t get me
wrong, I think women and most of our generation
are super entitled douchebags, and I don’t claim
to be superior to any of them.
Then again most of these women came from very low
life pathetic loser parents when they were growing
up since their parents spoiled the hell out of them
too. Now most of these pathetic low life loser women
are very greedy, selfish, spoiled, and money hungry
as well. Their greed and selfishness is everywhere
nowadays since they just expect too much now
unfortunately since their parents did a very
horrible job raising them.
It's called hypergamy, it's an instinct of
women.
Stop trying to justify their actions by blaming
the parents.
The majority of woman are like this.
Why?
Women evolved to seek out a mate with the
greatest amount of resources to better safeguard
herself and potential offspring. Women have not
changed, their environment has.
Women now have daddy-Government, he is richer
and more powerful than any individual man;
demanding nothing from the woman and showering
her with "free" money. This happened because we
let them vote. It may sounds harsh but it's
true, Government rapidly expanded post
womens-sufferage.
Unfortunately, there is NO democratic solution.
Enjoy the decline.
I disagree, “we” didn’t “let” them vote, our
forefathers actively changed or enacted laws to
protect and help everyone. As evil as feminist
would like to make men out to be, men have
always averaged out to be more likely to provide
and protect everyone. The US never experienced a
violent uprising forcing equality, men in power
actively caused that, even if there were some
set backs on the way. It will be interesting to
see if those now gaining power can do the same.
I doubt it.
And once they gave these very pathetic women the
right to vote which is when everything went down
hill from there unfortunately, and many of these
women think they're all that too which is very sad
altogether. And the women of today which most of
them just don't have any respect for most of us men
at all, and a very rotten personality to go along
with it.
And it is women like you that are such losers
and very pathetic altogether. And most of the
women in the old days were real ladies and very
old fashioned as well which is why they were
very normal back then compared to the women of
today that are so very horrible. Enough of the
truth has been said.
I believe you accademicly understand the concept of
earning respect, but doubt you have done anything
but be entitled yourself. Personally I find
leadership a burden, so if you want to take the
reigns, be my guest. Just try not to complain when
you actually have to put others ahead of yourself.
Having children doesn’t count, you did that to
fulfill a lack of other accomplishments in your
life.
All you have to do is get a bitch to cheat with
you, and then threaten her with ditching her so she
has to go begging back to her ex and she is yours
FOREVER. You don't have to do shit! I told my bitch
I was an MMA fighter and she sucked my dick right
there in the car! Now she has to cook for me and I
beat the shit out of her if she doesn't. You cant
get anymore bad boy than that! Trump's america
RULES!
You are either russian or just an easily
manipulated bitch. You politicized women to the
left, and defined that as receiving hand outs? Are
you serious? I give a shit about the rest of the
article, because you ruined the entirety of it with
that one sentence. And that, you little bitch, makes
you a woman.
You know who else is to blame for the state women
are in now? Their parents. Mothers and fathers are
not teaching women how to be women, instead they are
teaching them to think that men are supposed to take
care of them. Social media and White knights
contribute to the mindset of these fucktard women,
but women are also manipulated by the media feeding
them garbage so they can keep up with the Joneses or
the Kardashians. Women don't know how to be women
anymore yet they expect men to treat them like
women, but that they really want is for men to cater
to them and pamper them. Women really have become
parasites that need to be reprogrammed so they can
understand that their shit attitudes and ways of
thinking is unacceptable. Just because they have a
vagina doesn't mean they rule the world.
Wheelman is right I won' t even consider dating
women close to my age in their 30's. I've given up
on them completely they expect everything of a man
and offer nothing in return that and they are fat
not a few extra pounds they are fat. Completely
entitled and I'm not putting up with it, you should
see how these girls whine when they get rejected
it's like wow that 50 pound gut doesn't do it for
me? Your shocked?! I'm rocking abs year around for
any chance at even a half decent women, got my
degree, got a career spend my money responsibly,
cook, clean. where are the women doing the same? I'm
also 6 feet.
I love this article, I like how it drives home how
much effort men put into our lives only to see these
lazy ass girls expecting everything. I have no pity
for them. What makes me even more mad is the reason
girls don't lose the weight or try is because white
knights or low end beta in shape males screw them.
They don't have to do anything to get what they want
till 30-35 when they slip just below 5's and no one
wants to touch them and it hits them they will get
nothing anymore.
The whiny bitches say, as they whine bitch and
complain about everything. Go hide in your safe
space and shave your pussies, you worthless
cunts. MEN get respected. Whiny little cunts
like you get what you deserve.
I've seen you post some noncoherant drivel
about four times on this section. I haven't seen
one intelligent retort from you whatsoever. Did
you really just insult a person by saying they
have a vagina? You're trully the worst kind of
idiot. You seem like the type of person who
would hear a logical argument about women's
attitude and just squeel "you don't have a
girlfriend do you?" As if that somehow
invalidates their argument. This is a perfect
example of irrational logic that's stereotyped
to women. You haven't once pointed out why this
person could be wrong and I would not be
surprised if you were a person subject to the
same kind of media manipulation telling 20-30
year old teenagers that they're queens. I think
you need a moment of self reflection, because
you seem like you somehow refuse to portray
yourself as an intelligent person. You are what
I find wrong in women, rather than proving your
worth by showing you have your shit together,
you lash out like a little girl throwing a
tantrum, unfortunately this is like many other
girls, you would be surprised to know. This is
why men of this generation don't have respect
for women. A man of this generation refuses to
call himself a man until he has his shit
together. Most women genuinely want to be
treated like women while blatantly acting like
girls. Get your head out of your ass you child.